WHY DO ALCOHOLICS DENY
THEIR PROBLEMS? |
| (Previously published in The Hindu) |
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By
Rahul
Luther
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Leading medical authorities such as
WHO and the American Medical Association now recognize
alcoholism as a disease, with definite and predictable
symptoms. |
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| Alcoholics Anonymous defines
alcoholism as 'cunning, baffling,
powerful'. |
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What makes the disease so baffling is
the typical symptom of denial in an alcoholic. Ask an
alcoholic if he has a problem with drinking, and he will
most often deny, justify or evade the issue. |
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Drinking is an accepted behavior in
society. Unfortunately, in the case of two out of ten
persons who drink, alcohol slowly deviates from a
harmless to a devastating activity. The
person is then branded as a 'drunkard'
and a social stigma is attached to him. |
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'Ask an alcoholic if he
has a problem with drinking,
he will most
often deny, justify or evade the
issue'. |
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Though society allows drinking, the
victim of alcoholism is stigmatized. He is looked upon
as a bad, even evil person and is considered morally and
mentally inferior deserving of punishment and rejection.
This sets the stage for denial. |
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As the disease progresses, the
alcoholic needs to drink more, and more often. To
protect himself from social stigma, he
begins to hide his bottle and sneaks drinks. Repeated
'denial' by hiding the bottle and
drinking alone makes him lonely in his
obsession. |
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Everything and everyone, which was
hitherto important in his life, becomes secondary. The
alcoholic begins to reject everything, which he feels
may threaten his continued use of alcohol. |
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As his condition develops, his
self-image starts deteriorating. He is
unable to keep track of his drunken behavior and loses
contact with his emotional self. To survive, his defense
systems continue to grow in the face of increasing
problems. The greater the pain, the stronger the defense
systems become; this whole process takes place without
his conscious knowledge. Finally, he becomes a
victim of his own defenses. |
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'Denial is the
self-deception that prevents
alcoholics from admitting to
themselves or to others the destructive nature of
their
addiction'. |
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Not only is he unaware of his highly
developed defense system, he is also unaware of the
powerful feelings of guilt, shame and self-hatred buried
underneath, sealed off from conscious knowledge, but
explosively active. Because of this, his judgment is
progressively impaired. |
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The problem gets compounded by the
fact that these defenses, by locking in the negative
feelings, have now created a mass of
free-floating anxiety, guilt, shame, remorse and
fear which become chronic in course of
time. |
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To protect himself from the negative
attitudes of society and from the uncomfortable feelings
of guilt and low
self-esteem within himself, he begins to reject
the reality of the problem. It is a rejection of reality
within and around the alcoholic. |
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Denial is the self-deception that
prevents alcoholics from admitting to themselves or to
others the destructive nature of their addiction. |
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Denial takes many forms. Ask an
alcoholic about his problem and he will respond with any
one or a combination of these defense mechanisms: Simple
denial ("I don't have problem") to
blaming and justifying ("I drink because of
stress at office/home"); rationalization and
intellectualizing ("everybody drinks, it helps
me think"); minimizing ("I drink but
its not so bad"); diversion ("Tell me
about your new car"), hostility ("what
right do you have to ask me?") .and so
on. |
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Denial Defense
Mechanisms: |
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"I don't have problem"
"I drink because of
stress at office/home"
"Everybody drinks, it
helps me think" |
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"I drink but its not so
bad"
"Tell me about your new
car"
"what right do you have
to ask
me?" |
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Professional addiction counselors are
trained to break these defense systems with the help of
factual information gathered to facilitate a
session, in which the family also
participates. |
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Perhaps this is the reason addiction
counseling needs to more confrontationist than normal
counseling, at least initially. Treatment centers have
well-defined protocols and clear strategies to break the
denial. The door to recovery is thus opened. |
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Denial has to be overcome for
recovery to begin. Because real, long-term sobriety
cannot be based on falsehoods - it has to have a solid
foundation of truth. |
Mr. Rahul Luther is Executive Trustee of Hope Trust
and can be contacted at 
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